If you are single and have not yet tried online dating, you will! According to the Pew Internet & American life Project’s Online Dating Survey , by 2006 the majority of actively dating Americans had tried to score online at least once. Highlights of the survey:
- 31% of American adults—63 million people—say they know someone who has used a dating website.
- 26% of American adults—53 million people—say they know someone who has gone on a date with a person they met through a dating site.
- 15% of American adults—30 million people—say they know someone who has been in a long-term relationship or married someone he or she met online.
The table below lists the various dating-related activities included in our survey:
Since then, and in 2008 and the future, the growth has continued to explode. My own 28 year old son met his wife online and was married within a few months after a breakup with another gal.
Most of us know somebody who met their spouse or significant other online.
If you are like me, a person who was married for over 28 years trying to get back into the game, traditional dating is not even palatable: I am not good at it, the bars and nightclubs seem like meat-markets where only the most adept game players can score. I can get dates with eligible women in droves online ( I am on Hotornot, Match, Horney Matches, Plenty of Fish, and a few others), but the dates do not go well. I am considered young looking for my age, buff, atttractive, sexy…But ai m not succesful atthis game.
It never ceases to amaze me how many of the poeple who are succesful at dating are basically worthless dates: middle aged men who have no intention fo hooking up with anyone, just looking for conquests and sex.
On the other hand, I am safe (have not been with anybody else in over 29 years, no diseases), patient, respectful, not in any hurry, self sufficient…and I wil hook up and finally get dating eventually, but I am far from good at it.
An underlying trend is the fact that people’s families are all mixed up: according to divorcerate.org:
“The divorce rate in America for first marriage, vs second or third marriage
50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce, according to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri.”
According to enrichment journal on the divorce rate in America:
The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41%
The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60%
The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73″
Notice that the likelihood of divorce increases for the second and third marriage; it makes one wonder whether it is the people involved who are ill suited for marriage, or if marriage simply does not succeed when failure is an option.
One thing is for sure online dating is clearly one solution that seems to be a growing trend in an increasingly mobile, less family oriented society. It is also clear that people like me could do well to hone our skills when it comes to hooking up with unknown women.
Now I must get it to rank for online dating, a tall order, but totally doable with sufficient time and budget.